|
Journey to Ethicsland
Signed, A Dear Joshua: While I'm not sure you're ready to take Dr. Ellis's suggestion and tell your mutual friend that you have a thing for his girl (and remember, no matter how much you love her, she is with him right now), the rest of this may give you some guidance.It's from Sex and the Single Man, which came out in 1963, cashing in, I'm sure, on the sucess of Helen Gurley Brown's groundbreaking Sex and the Single Girl. 1963: Sexual Ethics
After all, there are plenty of girls in the world; and
it should consequently be fairly easy for you to forego sex activities
with your best friend's wife or girl. Of course, if the girl in
question really is outstanding, and if she is so keen on you that
she is willing to risk the loss of her husband or her boyfriend,
then it may sometimes be worth your while to gain a wonderful
relationship with her. Even then, it is normally ethical for you
to do so in an aboveboard manner: to let your friend know, for
example, that you are interested in his wife or girl, and not
merely make passes at her behind his back. Source:
Sex and the Single Man Home • About • The Book • Advice • Abiblog • Bookshelf • Contact
|
It
is not only toward your girlfriend that you should have an ethical
code; but also toward other individuals who may be involved with
you in your sex-love affairs. Thus, you normally will find it
inadvisable to date your best friend's girl; or a girl who is
going with your roommate; and sometimes even your sister's close
girlfriend. It is not that such relationships cannot ever work
out; for occasionally, they can. But your best friend or your
roommate or your sister is likely to be quite jealous of, or otherwise
embarrassed or disturbed about, your getting sexually involved
with his or her intimate friends; and therefore, usually, you
do not do anything to jeopardize your relationship with the one
who may be embarrassed.
