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Useless Tensions and Busy Girls Don't Mix!
I have this really difficult boyfriend. I am involved in a lot
of different things at school and sometimes I don't have a lot of
free time on my hands. I also have a job. My boyfriend is always
complaining that I never spend enough time with him. I also have
really strict parents who continually check to see that I have good
grades. Sometimes I get so overwhelmed and then my boyfriend calls
me and complains. It's so hard to deal with. I don't want to quit
any of my clubs or my job and I don't want my grades to slip, but
I really can't deal with the pressure from my boyfriend. What should
I do? How can I make time for him, my activities, and myself? Signed, Have you considered Yoga? It's working wonders for stress in my life these days. But alas, you probably don't have time for something like that, particularly when you're trying to trim down your schedule. The following is from Questions Girls Have Asked, and may
provide you with some information about wasteful energies that drag
folks down. Although it speaks to exercise and work, I think we
can apply some of the concepts to your problem. Of course, you're
on your own to determine what your "useless tension" is,
but it sounds to me like you've already figured that out. 1963: Get Rid of Useless Tension
The exercise value of physical work may be greatly lessened by
an associated emotional disturbance. A muscle may be able to work,
yet be unable to let go and rest between contractions. What a
waste! Much greater energy is expended, but useful work is not
increased. The result is exhaustion and excessive fatigue.
Source: Belle Wood-Comstack. Questions Girls Have Asked.
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rid of useless tension that wastes energy. Probably the most common
cause of futile energy loss is in emotional states. For example:
The amount of energy used by a person in the doing of a piece
of work is dependent in a great degree upon his peace of mind.
Work that is distasteful, disagreeable, or just boring takes more
energy than the same work if pleasing and interesting. (1) Strange
as it may seem, brain work of itself requires no energy. Only
as the associated work of a pencil or typewriter brings muscles
into play, or some strain of position or posture prevents complete
muscle rest, does mental effort draw on energy store. (2) But
let an element of fear, displeasure, or hurry disturb the mental
state, and tension increases in the whole body; every muscle is
affected, and there is added energy output, energy used to no
purpose. (3) The thinking one does while walking or gardening
requires no extra energy. The mental activity that accompanies
physical work may be very relaxing.
