Q Dear Miss Abigail:
I have recently met this girl who I’m very fond off. Things have got far enough for us to start kissing passionately. I have never kissed anyone before, however. Could you please tell me the ins and outs of my first passionate kiss?
A Dear James:
I don’t know what’s going on out there, but I’ve had a few questions from boys and girls recently about “passionate kissing.” For the answers, I have checked with the companion books The Sensuous Woman (by “J”) ~ the first excerpt ~ and The Sensuous Man (by “M”) ~ the second one. Too bad those authors remained anonymous. I was hoping they might be available to offer private lessons.
1969: The Kiss
The secret of good kissing is a relaxed mouth. Never, never pucker your lips, or kiss with the lips and teeth sealed firmly shut. How would you like to kiss someone who feels like he’s in the early stages of lockjaw? Well, he won’t like it either. Let your lips go almost limp. Ease the tension from your chin. Automatically your teeth will part slightly and you will be able to slip that teasing tongue of yours into his mouth as the pressure of the kiss (and your passion) mounts.
Naturally you will follow his lead while kissing, but there is a great deal you can do that he can’t regard as “taking over.” The trick is to slip in an embellishment here and there of your own in response to him. For instance, when you are coming up for air after one of those long, hungry soul kisses, lightly and quickly kiss him on the eyes, the nose, the forehead, hair, chin and then the mough again, pulling the right side of the upper lip into into your mouth and then the whole lower lip with a gentle sucking motion, releasing and then running your tongue silkily across his front teeth, gums and around and down inside his lips and then let yourself be swept into a deep keep again. Uhmmm. How delicious.
Source: “J.” The Sensuous Woman, New York: L. Stuart, 1969.
~ pp. 111-12 ~
1971: The Mouth
The mouth is the most beautiful, the most sensitive, the most active organ you can reach while she’s still dressed. The kiss is probably the single most important move toward the bedroom. It’s the key! It turns her on ~ or off ~ and, since life is a lot better when you turn her on, you can hardly do too much homework in this lesson of love.
1. Don’t crush her lips against her teeth to show your passion.
2. Don’t squeeze the breath out of her as you’re kissing her.
3. Don’t try to ram your tongue down her throat in order to stimulate her.
4. Don’t bite her lips.
5. Don’t use a dry, birdlike, pecking kiss with no pressure at all.
6. Don’t kiss with your mouth wide open and slobber all over her.
7. Don’t drool as you kiss her.
8. Don’t hold a kiss so long that she can’t breathe.
9. Don’t don’t, don’t have bad breath.
Source: “M.” The Sensuous Man. New York: Dell Publishing Co., 1971.
~ pp. 75-76 ~