Who is Miss Abigail?

Abigail Grotke
Silver Spring, MD
email: missabigail at missabigail dot com
twitter: @DearMissAbigail

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Miss Abigail has a collection of over 1,000 classic advice books, spanning from 1822 to 1978 and covering a variety of topics, from love and romance to etiquette and charm. The collection sparked the idea for this site, then a book, Miss Abigail's Guide to Dating, Mating, and Marriage, which has inspired an off-broadway production of the same name!



“If you’re looking for old-fashioned relationship advice . . . Miss Abigail is your gal.”
– The Washington Post

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Miss Abigail's News and Advice

March 29, 2015

Book Inventory Row Three: This Time, Horizontal!

A skinny third row down on my first bookcase demands that I stack them horizontally. The books this week are mostly health and some sex-related titles, including a book on stammering, one printed in Norwegian (from our last-summer adventures to BookTown), and a possibly self-published book from 1947, printed in Baltimore and signed by the…  >>Read the Rest…

March 22, 2015

Book Inventory: Shelf 1, Row 2, in which I discover I file badly

I’m only on shelf one, row two, and I realize that I have sex books for kids mixed in with physical education textbooks, and other health books. Woops. I guess I should reorganize as I go, but eh, that’s not within scope of the project. I also (re)discovered that I have a book from 1782 in the…  >>Read the Rest…

March 8, 2015

2015 Inventory of Collections: Shelf 1, Row 1: Health

Over the years I’ve done a so-so job of tracking which books are in my collection, from a long-ago database on my old Mac, to my website bibliography, and an ultimate move to Librarything.com which has been great and so much easier, but I’ve never managed to get all of my titles loaded. So for…  >>Read the Rest…

September 21, 2014

Sears Discovery Course: Chapter on Manners (1972)

There’s been renewed interest lately from readers of this site in the Sears Discovery Charm School courses that were available in the 1960s and 1970s; I’ve written about this before on the site, which is likely leading searchers to find their way to Miss Abigail. A fan and attendee of the course recently wrote to say she…  >>Read the Rest…

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