Who is Miss Abigail?

Abigail Grotke
Silver Spring, MD
email: missabigail at missabigail dot com
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Miss Abigail has a collection of over 1,000 classic advice books, spanning from 1822 to 1978 and covering a variety of topics, from love and romance to etiquette and charm. The collection sparked the idea for this site, then a book, Miss Abigail's Guide to Dating, Mating, and Marriage, which has inspired an Off-Broadway production of the same name!



“If you’re looking for old-fashioned relationship advice . . . Miss Abigail is your gal.”
– The Washington Post

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Miss Abigail's News and Advice

July 16, 2017

1928: Don’t Pull Anyone Else Down to Advance Yourself

I got to thinking this morning that this guidance from 1928’s What a Young Man Ought to Know might be a helpful reminder right now. We seem to have lost some of this common sense in recent times. Keep cool, everyone!  

April 6, 2017

1891: Learning Something from All

I strive to live by this advice from Richard Wells each day ~ even though it seems harder and harder sometimes to do so! We must all try, as much as we can.

March 26, 2017

Wearing the Mask of Pretense, 1941

Here’s a good quote regarding “wearing the mask of pretense” from Lillian Eichler’s 1941 The New Book of Etiquette. I thought it might come in handy right now!

March 1, 2017

Affirming a Fact (1891)

Some advice from Richard A. Wells, Manners, Culture and Dress, 1891, on affirming facts. 

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